Someone whose opinion I respect reminded me of a bad habit: apologizing in advance. That is, I'm not apologizing for something that I really did wrong, or some offense I actually caused. No, I apologize for not being good enough. I apologize quickly for imagined slights I may have caused. It ain't pretty and it ain't helping.
Apologizing, for me, serves two functions. First, it works to disarm anyone who might criticize me. I'm like the submissive dog in that moment, the one that rolls over and exposes its belly to the dominant dog: "See, I'm no threat! I already know you're Top Dog!" Second, it works to ameliorate conflict. If I immediately accept responsibility, maybe folks will just stop fighting.
Says a lot about me, doesn't it? But times change. And my habits need to change with them, and with me. I am a strong, intelligent, funny woman. And no one expects me to be the best at everything, except me. Time to get over that.